How we proceed in life today comes from our early childhood programing. Our parents, the closest people in our life including our siblings. First seven years of child’s life are very important and set up the brain programing for our adulthood. Some of us had healthy “home” someone did not. Home plays detrimental part in our life as adults. Not to put a blame on our parents, absolutely not. It is just that they didn’t know any better. Probably they went through same thing years back.
The most crucial thing is that some of us when recognize it we do something about it. For US and our children. It is a long journey but we can do it.